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  • Writer's pictureMarty Jalove

Jealousy and BACON!

Do you find yourself overcome with envy every time your neighbor gets a shiny new car? Does it make your heart ache when a friend talks about their latest promotion? Learning to conquer jealousy is easier said than done, but doing so can be incredibly beneficial for both our mental and emotional wellbeing. It can even lead to true happiness if we give ourselves the chance to address our feelings of envy and work through them in constructive ways.

Jealousy can be a rough emotion to deal with—especially when it stops us from finding happiness. Tonight, we'll discuss methods to help combat and understand jealousy, and hopefully make life more enjoyable.

Here are five steps to help us understand the complexity of jealousy and few ways to make sure that it doesn't hinder our happiness.

B - Be Honest with Yourself

The first step in overcoming jealousy is being honest with yourself about your triggers. At work, in your relationships, identifying what specific factors or situations evoke jealous feelings can help us get to the root cause. This increased awareness allows us to take a step back, take a deep breath, and assess the situation objectively, enabling a more appropriate response.

A - Acknowledge Feelings

Acknowledging our feelings of jealousy is essential for managing them. Accept these emotions and try to understand what drives them, and why they're surfacing. Pushing away or ignoring feelings of jealousy can lead to bigger problems, like passive-aggressive behavior or relationship dysfunction.

C - Communicate Openly

One of the best ways to manage jealousy is to communicate openly with all those involved. In personal relationships, having an honest conversation with a partner about your feelings will help determine whether the jealousy is warranted and how it can be addressed. Alternatively, in professional settings, discussing your aspirations and concerns with a supervisor or mentor may help alleviate any misconceived notions of favoritism or inequality.

O - Opt for Empathy and Humility

Empathy and Humility play critical roles in overcoming jealousy. Putting ourselves in others' shoes and being happy for their good fortune can help us better understand their feelings and experiences, providing a new perspective on the situation. This shift can lead to a stronger appreciation for others' achievements and how those accomplishments can contribute to mutual growth.

N - Nurture Self-Esteem

Lastly, nurturing one's self-esteem and self-worth is vital in decreasing jealousy. Recognizing and celebrating our successes and believing in ourselves will boost confidence, making it easier to welcome others' achievements without feeling threatened or envious. Engaging in self-care routines and reminding ourselves of our own unique worth will contribute to a more robust and happier sense of self.

Understanding, acknowledging, and managing these feelings will ultimately contribute to a healthier emotional life. Implementing the BACON approach can lead to more positive interactions, both personally and professionally.

To make the best use of BACON, we recommend:

1. Practicing self-awareness regularly to identify jealousy triggers.

2. Encouraging open communication in all relationships.

3. Actively promoting empathy and humility in our interactions.

“People don’t hurt you by being successful; you hurt yourself by being envious of them.” Frank Sonnenberg

For the whole story, catch the recording on “Bacon Bits with Master Happiness” on Apple Podcast, Spotify, Google Podcast, Amazon Music, Audible, and iHeart Radio or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

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