Do you know someone who just always seems to think the sky is falling? They're the person who turns a minor setback into a major disaster, and who never seems to be able to see the bright side of things. It's frustrating to deal with people like this, but it's also important to remember that catastrophizing is a real thing, and it can be a sign of deeper anxiety or depression. If you're struggling to work with someone who always sees the worst-case scenario, try these five Sizzling tips!
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B - Believe in Their Fears
The first step to helping someone who catastrophizes is to acknowledge their fears. Often, when someone is reacting to a situation in a way that seems over the top, it's because they truly believe that the worst-case scenario is going to happen. Rather than brushing off their worries or telling them they're being dramatic, take a moment to listen to what they're saying and validate their feelings. Say something like, "I understand why this is scary for you. Let's see if we can come up with a plan to make it feel less overwhelming."
A - Address Their Concerns
Once you've validated their fears, it's time to start finding solutions. Ask probing questions to get at the root of what's bothering them, and then try to work together to come up with an action plan. If someone is catastrophizing about a work deadline, for example, you might ask about what specifically is causing them to feel overwhelmed. Once you know the root of the problem, you can brainstorm ways to break the task into smaller pieces, delegate some work, or reprioritize other tasks to make more time.
C - Change the Narrative
One of the reasons that catastrophizing can be so frustrating to deal with is that it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When we focus entirely on the negative outcomes of a situation, we can get stuck in a negative loop that makes it harder to take action or see positive outcomes. To help someone who is in this mode, try to reframe the situation in a more positive light. Instead of focusing on everything that could go wrong, help them see all the potential benefits or opportunities that could come from the situation.
O - Offer Support
Dealing with someone who always catastrophizes can be tiring, so it's important to make sure that you're taking care of yourself, too. At the same time, though, it's also important to remember that the person who is struggling likely needs support and encouragement. Make sure that you're checking in with them throughout the process, offering words of encouragement and recognition of their efforts. It can be helpful to remind them of times in the past when they've overcome challenges and succeeded - if they've done it before, they can do it again!
N - Normalize Help-Seeking
Finally, it's important to remind the person who is catastrophizing that it's okay to seek help when they need it. Often, people who are prone to anxiety or depression feel like they have to shoulder the burden alone, but this simply isn't true. Encourage them to talk to a therapist or a mental health professional if they feel like their fears are getting in the way of their daily life. Remind them that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness, and that there are people who are trained to help them manage their anxieties and move forward in a positive way.
Catastrophizing can be a challenging behavior to deal with, but it's important to remember that it's often a sign of deeper struggles with anxiety or depression. If you have a colleague or friend who is prone to thinking the worst, try these five ideas: Believe in their fears, Address their concerns, Change the narrative, Offer support, and Normalize help-seeking. With patience and understanding, you can help them overcome their fears and see the potential in even the most challenging situations.
BUT WHAT IF I'M CATASTOPHIZING? There are actionable steps we can take to dissolve our worries and move towards a more peaceful and balanced existence.
B - Breathe
It's easy to get caught up in the panic of catastrophizing, but the first step towards dissolving your worries is to take a deep breath. Try to inhale deeply for four seconds, hold for seven seconds, and exhale for eight seconds. Repeat this breathing technique until you feel noticeably calmer. When we're scared or anxious, our bodies automatically enter the "fight or flight" mode, increasing our breathing and heart rate. Controlling our breathing sends signals to our bodies that we're not in immediate danger, calming our nervous system and allowing us to think more rationally.
A - Assess
Once you feel calm, try to assess the situation objectively. What are the hard facts? What can you realistically do to improve the situation? Write down a list of steps you can take to address the issue at hand. Often, catastrophizing occurs when we focus on worst-case scenarios and forget to look at the bigger picture. By writing down your thoughts and turning them into actionable goals, you regain control of the situation and move towards solutions rather than problems.
C - Challenge
Challenge your thoughts and assumptions by asking yourself some critical questions. Are your fears based on irrational thoughts or facts? What evidence do you have that supports or contradicts your worries? Is your current perception clouded by any negative beliefs? Addressing these questions will help you identify any cognitive distortions and break down your fears into more manageable and solvable issues.
O - Optimize
Think about what fills your cup and optimize your daily routine to include more of it. This will help keep your mental health in check, reminding yourself that things aren't always as bleak as they may seem during a catastrophizing episode. For some, this could mean more meditation, exercise or time spent reading. For others, it could be watching a favorite movie or cooking up a bacon-filled breakfast. Whatever it is that brings you joy and helps you relax, try to implement it into your daily routine to prevent future catastrophizing episodes.
N - Network
Remember, you're not alone in this. Talk to a friend or loved one about your fears or seek help from a mental health professional. You might be surprised to find that others have gone through similar catastrophizing episodes and can offer valuable insights or practical advice. In addition to reaching out to your existing network, consider joining a local support group or online community where you can share your experience with others who can relate.
Catastrophizing can be a difficult cycle to break, but by using a little BACON, you're already one step closer towards managing your worries. Remember to take deep breaths, assess the situation objectively, challenge your thoughts and assumptions, optimize your routine, and network with others who can offer support and guidance. By doing so, you'll be well on your way to enjoying a bacon-filled life free from catastrophic thoughts. So, stop catastrophizing, and savor every moment. Your taste buds and mental health will thank you!
Remember, it’s not always a catastrophe, sometimes it’s just a conundrum disguised as a calamity!
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