Marty narrows the noisy crowd in our heads down to two key players: the critic and the cheerleader. The critic is doubt wrapped in imposter syndrome, "Who thought I could possibly do this?" The cheerleader is the Rocky Balboa in your corner, reminding you it's not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up.

This type says, "Woe is me." They aren't necessarily looking for a solution; they are looking to be seen. It’s often childlike behavior lingering in adults. They need validation, and unfortunately, they’ve learned that the squeaky wheel gets the grease.

Many of us have grown up with the notion that being "selfish" is a bad thing. We're taught that putting others first is what makes us...